Welcome to the Adoption Blog Hop! You are welcome to link up any adoption related posts but if you were wanting to follow along with the topic, this week’s question is “What are your biggest fears regarding adoption?”.
Next week’s question will be “What are your favourite adoption-themed children’s books?”.
What are your biggest fears regarding adoption?
Most of the fears that I held at one time or another about adoption have long been dispelled, but I have one big one that lingers. I worry that my love, God’s love, our family’s love will not be enough to fill the hole that the loss of adoption creates. I have heard from many adult adoptees who grew up in loving homes and were showered with affirmation that still walked around every day feeling like something was missing, feeling like they were not whole. I have also heard from some adult adoptees who did not have this experience and who do feel whole and complete even without finding their first family.
I can already see in my five adopted children that each of them handles the loss in adoption very differently. I can be there to guide them through and to answer questions to the best of my ability, but ultimately, I have no control over how they will handle their loss. It’s theirs to handle, theirs to process, theirs to heal.
My biggest fear is that no matter what I do, it won’t be enough to make up for what they’ve lost.
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